People Won’t Understand Your (Reputation Damage) Trauma

They just won’t: people will not be able to understand what you have gone through, what you are still going through and what you will continue to endure and suffer, due to the negative powerful forces and impact over the damage to you and your reputation.

In most situations, they won’t care much either.

If we’ve created our own misery through reckless decision-making, then that’s our cross to bear, so to speak (although action can be taken — stop doing and start doing — that can greatly improve our reality).

Yet, that’s not always the case, us being responsible for our misery.

Reputation damage and the subsequent and ongoing trauma can be the result of unwarranted attacks, overt or covert, from nefarious people, a/k/a, “bad actors.”

Here’s what’s helpful to learn, know and remember:

Some people will take at face value the lies, false accusations and rumors about you. That, understandably, hurts to experience.

Some people will not want to listen to a different narrative than those lies, false accusations and rumors. This is usually due to bias or hidden motive of some type. The reality is that no amount of information, facts, evidence and truth is likely to inspire them to reconsider their conclusions and beliefs.

Some people who have the ability to help you will reject you, believing you to be the character and villain in the lies, false accusations and rumors.

There may be little-to-no one willing to work with and for you even if you pay them, to assist in revealing an accurate narrative, one that shines a bright, wide, penetrating light on facts and truth.

You may pay money, a lot of it, to shady, unscrupulous people and receive poor service, a bad attitude and no help. This is much more common than you’d likely imagine.

You may grow weary, overwhelmed, psychologically shook, depressed and physically ill.

You may become consumed about your state of reality. This means rumination. Maybe anger, hopelessness, anxiety and/or anger. You may actually get stuck in the mud in your mind. It’s easy to do, even while you are working hard to get out of that mental, social, relationship, financial (and maybe, legal) battle.

You may start to drift way off course behavior wise as a dysfunctional coping mechanism because of the overwhelm, if the damage to your name and reputation is severe in intensity, long-lasting (months, years, decades) or both, because of how you’re experiencing and processing your pain.

You may see your mental health, physical health, finances, confidence, trust, hope and relationships suffer badly. You may come to not recognize yourself.

Good decisions, better ones and the best moves are possible, if and when you find, identify and work with trustworthy, competent, ethical and responsible people to assist you.

If you are seeking someone who will listen, be open-minded and consider a narrative that is more than the dominant, destructive one being circulated, I may be the one who will help.

If you seek someone to discuss a clear, possible way or highly likely way through the depth, emotions and psychology of the struggle, with services that can clear a road for improvement — or better, an outcome that brings you relief and a smile, I may be the one to walk alongside and with you to achieve it.

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Michael Toebe is a reputation specialist and representative at Reputation Intelligence - Reputation Quality, ethically and effectively serving individuals and organizations with matters of trust, risk and important and critical relationships. Reach out if you would like to learn more or hire for professional, skilled service.